your wedding is not an imposition

chasing replies regarding my wedding is the worst feeling ever. disappointments and all and at the end of the day. there's not much help at all. when i broke down and told him... "hey it's tough... " he hugs me though and says..."well people will know when it's their turn to get married and the awful load of work to do and there's no one willing to pro-actively wanna help..."

some people made it feels like... it's being imposed on them. they whine. or they always talk about themselves. as though the spot light is still shinning on them forever. im beginning to think that people just want to complain. i had a reply "i dont know anybody there..."

may i quote from (http://apracticalwedding.com/2010/01/you-guys/):

Did you get that? It's not an imposition on *anyone.* And let me tell you why. It's not because your guests will have fun at your wedding (though, duh, they will), it's because your guests are grown-ass people. They are GROWN UPS. If your wedding is too expensive, or too far away, or just too much of a bother? They won't come. If you're lucky, they'll be very kind when they tell you about it. If you're not lucky? Then you didn't want them there anyway (try to remember that mid-sob, it was hard for me.)

"This is what I have learned: The people who love you and care about you will not feel like your wedding is a burden or an imposition. They will be thrilled that out of all of the people you could have invited, you want THEM. The (editors note: FEW) people who do feel burdened -- eh. You are always going to have someone who isn't satisfied.*"Read more: http://apracticalwedding.com/2010/01/you-guys/#ixzz1kvkU9d38

The people that were there, were the people that were supposed to be there. The people that had a good time were the people that were genuinely happy to be a part of our marriage and understood that the clebration was not about them. That we would do our best to see and talk with them, but that there other people to laugh and dance with too.

my notes:

it's been a tough week with work. invitations mostly sent out. char will be accompanying me this sat to deliver the rest to ex-office. *touched* <3 and surpringly on the brighter note, there's a whole lot of people who will be coming to give their blessings on my wedding. thrilled* i know there are people who really wanna be there and they cant. merci~ for all the wonderful support.

will you be my brides maid

anxious. fidgty.
am i gonna be anxious all the way till my wedding? LOL
no ideas.

it's 12 o clock to night

Getting pretty lonely lately... must be my ailing body.
aint no strong lady to get me going. if all fails. there's always mum.
i always believe in that. she always see the good in me. always.
always there. forever. or can i make it forever.

life uncertainty. friends come and go. striking people off my list.
turning 25 this year. counting down my days... had this conversation with my girlfriend that goes...

her: we should go to this place
me: yes yes that was what i wanted too! great minds think alike!
her: oh no. such places. the 'more' the merrier. blah blah blah
me: erm. i dont really have that many friends and i'm prob. to lazy to ask people who i cant be bothered as well.
her: oh ya. i dont have many friends too. oh alright we'll do a quiet dinner then.

chuckles* no worries. we are not that bitter about our lives.

laughters' the best medicine

a friend can really be a cure to most sickness...
Liping sent me a msg today really cracks me up. Randomly she says:

"Dont Worry. You will be fine. To have a check up early,
can ease your mind"

i also like how it feels to take a cab home with yr bff ... and crack all the nonsense in that journey back.... <3

Peter, Bjorn & John - Young Folks

If I told you things I did before, told you how I used to beWould you go along with someone like meIf you knew my story word for word, had all of my historyWould you go along with someone like meI did before and had my share, it didn't lead nowhereI would go along with someone like youIt doesn't matter what you did, who you were hanging withWe could stick around and see this night throughAnd we don't care about the young folksTalking 'bout the young styleAnd we don't care about the old folksTalking 'bout the old style tooAnd we don't care about our own faultsTalking 'bout our own styleAll we care about is talkingTalking only me and youUsually when things has gone this far, people tend to disappearNo one will surprise me unless you doI can tell there's something goin' on, hours seems to disappearEveryone is leaving, I'm still with youIt doesn't matter what we do, where we are going toWe can stick around and see this night throughAnd we don't care about the young folksTalking 'bout the young styleAnd we don't care about the old folksTalking 'bout the old style tooAnd we don't care about our own faultsTalking 'bout our own styleAll we care about is talkingTalking only me and youAnd we don't care about the young folksTalking 'bout the young styleAnd we don't care about the old folksTalking 'bout the old style tooAnd we don't care about their own faultsTalking 'bout our own styleAll we care about is talkingTalking only me and youTalking only me and youTalking only me and youTalking only me and you